Beyond Adversity… To Greatness.

January 12th, 2010

You may have noticed I haven’t blogged in a while… I was on a role and stopped. If you’ve been to one of my recent workshops you may know why. I am so done with adversity, and “the adversity doctor” is no longer fitting me…I am so over it! I’m in the process of coming up with something wonderful and new and much more true to me… and I wanted to share what’s up for me during this transition. Hopefully it will empower you too.

In “Success Built to Last” a book by Porras, Emery & Thompson there is a great quote “It’s an amazing thing to think that ours is the first generation that really can end extreme poverty…[but] we let our own pathetic excuses about how it’s ‘difficult’ to [make social change really happen] to justify our own inaction…” Those are Bono’s words and they are so true.
If you look at Adversity Doctor.com it’s really about being beyond adversity. What it really talks about is knowing we have a choice and using our personal power to create/build the life and experience we want. To not shrink in the face of a challenge but to stretch and grow to meet that challenge. Facing whatever comes up, head on and using those experiences to grow ourselves and become more than we were. Whether that challenge is our own personal challenge or a challenge in the world.

I’m in the midst of that – personally and professionally. It’s very uncomfortable, and I like the shift that has already started coming. I, and the universe, seem to want me to play bigger… and I’ve been resisting. Why? It’s what we do, isn’t it?

We all have so many excuses, reasons, stories about how we’re not good enough to do what we really want to do… but those are just stories, excuses, reasons… and not the truth of us and not the truth of what’s possible for us.

So… are you ready? Are you ready to face your own adversity, whatever it is that gets in your way of being all you long to be? To be “Over It!” Are you ready… and more than that, are you willing to know how great you are and do what you are here to do?

I’m not saying it’s easy… but (I say with a laugh) it really has got to be easier than living believing that we are small and not good enough. It’s time we quit lying to our selves, to stop telling our selves* that we can’t, that we aren’t good enough or capable… WE ARE!

YOU and I ARE MAGNIFICENT… you know it. Deep within you, you know it. It hurts our ‘selves’ to believe our selves so small.

It’s time to know our greatness, our beauty, our magnificence… and to build a life and a world that we love living in. Let’s do it.

My new job is not to get you beyond adversity but to support, inspire and empower you to so much more… to be all you can be. Keep posted… more is coming.

It’s time…

In awe and gratitude,
Lisa

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Leading Your Team After a Lay-Off

November 30th, 2009

If you own a company or manage a team within one and have had to lay off employees here are some tips to help you turn adversity into opportunity… to use the lay off to strengthen your team and your position with them.

Any adversity offers us a chance to grow, especially when it’s a group facing a challenge together. Think of those times in your life where you’ve really connected with a group of people through a challenge or catastrophe. Think of the bond that’s built. This is your opportunity to build that with your team.

Here are some tips.

Tip #1. Remember that you are a team, and you’re going through this together. You need to remember that, and you need to remind them of that. This is a hard time for all of you. You’ve got a good team. They’re smart people. They know what’s going on in the world. They know people are getting laid off. They understand the realities of it. They may not like it any more than you do… and that’s the point. You’re all in this adversity together, this uncomfortable situation that you don’t like. It’s not them and you, it’s all of you.

Tip #2. Talk to them, and let them talk to you. Let them know that you aren’t liking it either. Don’t blame the company, don’t complain, just let them know, “I’m upset that we needed to let them go too. This is challenging.” Say more than that but you get the gist. Sometimes we need to be reminded (both management and employees) that none of us like it and we are all in it together.

Let them talk about it too. So many times through things like this, more stress is created because no one is talking which is scary and it makes us wonder. Have an open door policy about this. It’s not just about them wondering what’s going on, aren’t you wondering how they’re feeling and what they’re thinking too? Make it okay to talk about it. Sometimes in work we forget were human… not just human but capable human beings. We can handle it… and it helps to handle it together.

Tip #3. Lead. Many times after a lay off, people are left to just wonder what’s next because the business just seems to continue forward a bit like a funeral march. This is your time to shine. Be a leader. Remind all of you that choices have to be made. The reality is, companies are going out of business. The lay off is to keep yours running. You are the lucky ones. But don’t just talk it… do it. The next part is to start living that, to work on doing more than surviving, work on thriving. It’s your job to lead that.

A long time ago I was demoted. It was very political. You know how those things go. They gave my team to someone else to manage. A few months later, the same thing happened to someone else in the company. We were talking one day. She surprised me. She said, “I wouldn’t have known how to handle it, if I hadn’t watched you. You didn’t complain, blame, lash out, or criticize. You just kept your head high and did your job.”

Be that kind of leader to your team, someone they believe in and have a reason to follow. Which does not mean being perfect, just be someone you feel good about being. It makes all of you feel better and creates loyalty.

Tip #4. Build your new team. Remember that good team of yours? Those people you have left. Have them be your team, your helpers to reorganize. They know their jobs and the department/company. Don’t do it alone, it’s not good for you or for them. Let this time build you as a team. Let your remaining team members know that they are an integral part of the whole, instead of just hanging on to their jobs in hopes that they aren’t next to go.

One of the biggest things I do as a coach is to get you looking forward. It’s easy to look at what we lost and what’s not working. My job is to get you thinking about what you want to build next, get you to start planning forward and even get excited about it. An adversity like this offers an opportunity to reorganize, to build something… maybe even something better. What do you really want? What will you make of this new team of yours?

Tip #5. Vision and Create. Now that you’ve read these but before you do any of these steps… think of your team. Think of the individual strengths that all of you have. Think of what you want to build with them. Create a vision for yourself of how you’d like to it be. This is a ripe opportunity to rebuild your team in a new way. Come up with some ideas and some action steps.

What’s interesting, often in corporations people aren’t as busy as they’d like to be. They are bored. People want to feel useful and work at something that feels like it’s worth doing. Creating a leaner, more powerful team that really values it’s members may be the best thing to happen to your group.

A personal note to you. I know this is hard. These are challenging times. Make the best of it for yourself. Focus forward on what you want to create. Remember each adversity offers an opportunity, and make the most of what you have. Keep your eye on your vision, not just of getting through this but of making something great of it. Now go do it. Build that new team of yours, with their help.

If you feel stuck through any of this and want help, call me 206.937.1037 or email me at Lisa@AdversityDoctor.com. We can do a single coaching session to get you focused on the opportunity you have in front of you to build something good. We’ll come up with a plan and action steps for you. If you’d like help with talking with your team, have me come and do a Mastermind Session with all of you. I’ll support you in coming up with a plan and actions, and build a powerful team. We can get you thinking forward, empowered, inspired to take on the world in a new way.

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The Power of Appreciation – Using Thanksgiving and Gratitude To Build Your Business.

November 23rd, 2009

When things are challenging, like the current times, we can get focused on what’s wrong in our businesses and what we don’t have. Here’s a Thanksgiving tip to help you turn your business around, and help you enjoy your holiday more. The Power of Appreciation.

What is appreciation? Is it just a word or a positive thought? No, think of it this way… You buy a house. Let’s say it’s a good, solid house but not in great repair. Now, you have the opportunity to appreciate or depreciate it.

You can feel bad that you couldn’t get a better house. You can look at it, focus on all the things wrong with it, all the work that needs to be done, get overwhelmed, see it as a problem and too hard. You then let the lawn go, park cars in the yard, let it fall apart. You’ve seen the houses, you know what I mean. It decreases in value. You then have less than you started with.

Your other option is to feel glad that you got a house and know that this house can be great. It may even be a step to a better house. You can focus on all that’s right with it. Pay attention to what’s good about it. Is the foundation good? Is there something about it that you really like? Maybe it’s a room or a certain feature. Focus on what’s good, create a vision for yourself of what it could be, what you could do with it and start making those changes. As you do, make the most of it by continuing to appreciate it. Noticing how much better it’s getting and how much closer it’s moving you toward your next goal. Also appreciating you for what you’re doing to make it better, what skills you’re learning and who you’re being by your being thankful. You’re property appreciates… and so do you.

So, what about you and your business (or maybe it’s your work history, skills and resume, or even your current job) are you appriating what you have? Are you taking the good that is and adding value? When was the last time you really focused on all that is good about it… or you? When was the last time you really took stock?

We can get so caught up in all that there is to do, all that we don’t have, and we can get overwhelmed or frantic. Instead of writing a “To Do List” how about writing a “Look What I’ve Accomplished and Built List” a list of all the positives and assets in you and your business (or job/past skills and job experience).

After you’ve created that list, take some time to really sit with all the good that you’ve built. Think of the skills and talents you’ve grown, and who you’ve become in the process. I’m visual so I like to think of it like with the house… I imagine walking from room to room putting your attention on what’s right. What do you have? A website? Some skills…which ones? Really look. How about your connections, past clients/customers, contacts, people that you have or could partner with? What else?

Get caught up and excited in appreciation of what you have, get excited about it. Now see where you can add value. What can you do to make it even better? What skills or traits do you want to grow to make your self even more valuable…to get you where you want to go?

Thanksgiving is a time for being thankful… I like to use life lessons in business, and business lessons in life. Appreciate what you have and what you have built… of your business, of your self, of your life. Find and pay attention to your value and see what happens.

May your Thanksgiving be filled with blessings and love!
Lisa

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Sharing Our Good…and Building Our World.

November 16th, 2009

Some days I wake up feeling great, some not so great. Today was one of those not-so-great mornings until I stepped out into the world… well, since I work from home that meant opening my email.

hopeA friend and client of mine sent me a story about her weekend. She’s looking for a job and money is tight. Yet, things are coming together and I’m lucky enough to hear her miracles. I know she’s been doing things to keep her consciousness up – prayer, affirmations, positive reading, watching “The Secret” every day, whatever it takes. Today she sent me a story…

She needed $100 more to make her mortgage payment. At first she didn’t know how it could come… then she just decided to open up to a way and knew that it would come and went out into her life. That positive belief, and opening up to the support of the Universe probably changed her attitude and how she interacted with people, wouldn’t you think. Well, she’s working a side catering job, and someone gave her a $100 tip…which she shared is not normal. Yet, just like that, her mortgage was paid.

Well, that’s pretty great in itself. And, in sharing her miracle, her work and her blessing became mine. It raised my consciousness too. It helped me remember today how easy and beautifully things can come together. There is always a way… and that way can bless everyone involved. The more we know that, the more boldly we step out into the world, do what we need to do to create and build our good… and bless others.

This is our world. We have an impact. We can be the light at the other end of the tunnel reminding each other that our good is possible… light at the end of the tunnel

The Adversity Doctor’s Steps for Success… face your Adversity, find your Opportunity, have the Adventure of Your Life!

What’s your Adversity? Is your attitude negative? Are you feeling stuck or like something won’t work? Are you thinking the problem is “out there” and that you can’t easily have better?

What’s your Opportunity? To do what it takes to have the consciousness/positive beliefs that you need so you’ll remember that you have choices, that you are capable and powerful, and that it can work. You’re opportunity is to build personal habits and practices that support you in creating the life and the success that you desire…and doing those practices on a daily basis. What daily practices will help lift your attitude?

Your Adventure… To then go out and create your good – your successes, and share your stories… impacting the world in a positive way and making our world a better place.

So, today, I’m asking more of you to share your positive stories – First, what are you doing that’s working for you to keep you positive. Second, what are the “miracles” that you are manifesting. If you comment on my blog, your comments will be posted below.

In the midst of the negativity out there in the world, we can to be the voice for good for each other, partnering and taking personal responsibility to build a better world. So, what wonderful things have happened in your life lately? Share them…

Affirmation: Today I remember that I have the power to shape my experience and the level of success I desire, and that I am an integral part of the world… valuable, useful, needed. I share my good and know that I am a blessing.

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Are You Open To Your Possibilities?

November 10th, 2009

Someone recently called me Mariposa… which means Butterfly and sounds beautiful in Spanish.

I thought about that… and it fits, yet I realized I hadn’t been using my wings. A part of me forgot that I am no longer a caterpillar and instead of my wings being these beautiful things to lift me and take me to my next destination with ease and beauty… gliding and having fun… they were weighing me down. Like a caterpillar with luggage and the wrong legs to carry it.caterpillar

Sometimes, when something happens (again, adversity) we get off track. Whether that something is personal or professional or something outside of us like the economy or getting laid off, we forget how amazing and beautiful we are, we forget the tools that we have, and we forget how capable and able we are to create the life and experience we want.

Open Up To Your Possibilities!

The first step in my “What Piece of the Puzzle Are You? Five Steps to Your Right Livelihood!” workshop is “Open Up To Possibilities”. I put that step in because people kept telling me their dreams like this… “I’d love to do this job or that, work with this client or that, have this business or that… but …I’m too old, too young, don’t have this or that skill, etc. (you fill in the rest. What’s your but?) And what I know from working with clients over the years is that those buts are not true, they are just fear and resistance…forgetting how much choice and power we have to create our destiny.

So… what is really possible for you. Start that “I’d love to…” leave off the “but” put in an “and… today I will_____(your action step here)_____ because I know I can do it, I do have what it takes, I deserve to have what my heart desires, and the Universe will support me.”

Just like the Mariposa… how must that first flight feel? To have been a caterpillar all ones life, afraid of falling… and then have wings and need to fly. You cannot fly unless you trust your wings, that inner tug inside that says “You are so much more… fly!” That tug within you, that dream of who and how you want to be, is the truth of you. Your wings are already there… use them.freedom butterfly

Affirmation: Today I recognize what’s good in me. I know my good and my talent. I take my next bold step knowing that I will be supported… that God and the Universe are on my side. (Vision the ease and joy of flying.)

Go, take your place in the world and be all you are meant to be…

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And… if you’re interested in the workshop I mentioned go to www.adversitydoctor.com and check out my workshops! I’d love to meet you there.

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Face The Thing You Fear… and Step Back Into Your Power!

September 15th, 2009

Are you feeling overwhelmed? Is the current economy, the news and whatever adversity you’re facing in your own life making everything feel difficult? Are you feeling stuck?

Is there that one thing, or a maybe a few things, that you know you should face and take care of poking at you? It’s in the back of your mind every minute. Maybe it’s a call from a creditor that you need to return, mail to open, a voicemail to listen to, or checking your investments or bank balance, maybe it’s about your business, or maybe something personal.

Whatever it is, when we avoid something, like that thing poking at you, and don’t face it… it eats at our self esteem. We start thinking we can’t handle things, not just that thing but other things. We start believing that whatever it is we’re facing is bigger than we are.

Is that how you’re feeling? Would you like to feel better?

Take a deep breath. There’s only one thing to do. You know you have to face it. Simple, but not so easy, right? Maybe it is?

Have you ever had that experience of finally facing something and finding out it wasn’t as bad as you thought? Or maybe it was as bad as you thought or worse but it was easier to face and know than to have it looming like some huge monster in the closet.

What it really takes is The Decision To Face It… and Just Do It!

What I know is… You’re courage and willingness to face whatever that thing is that you’ve been avoiding can build your sense of personal power. What does that mean? Facing the challenge head on can be just the thing to strengthen you enough to take the next step, and the next and start making things better for you.

Are you ready? Are you willing to face your adversity, to take the bull by the horns, to know “I am the power in my world and I can do this!” Yes! Go! Take that first step to turn things around. You will feel so much better about yourself, and life might still be challenging but you’ll have a chance and a choice to make it better.

Remember:
– You can do this.
– You are not alone, there are so many people out there having a hard time. Get in community with people that are challenged too – just make sure they’re also working on stepping forward too.
– Ask for help, or someone to lean on. Don’t isolate – that just makes it worse.
- Help someone else. It’s great to get help and often it’s equally great to give it. It helps you feel connected again and It helps you remember how capable you are and that you have something of value – who you are, your friendship.

Affirmation: Today I have choices. I am the power in my world. Today, I am doing what it takes to build a better life for myself. I can do this!

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And… if you’re really feeling stuck and can’t get out from under your adversity… My Quick Fix Single Coaching Session is GUARANTEED to get you unstuck – to Change Your Mindset, Find Your Opportunity, Know Your Next Step…or it’s free. Call 425.821.9552 or email me at Lisa@AdversityDoctor.com and schedule your session now. It’s over the phone, so no matter where you are we can do this!

You are the power in your world! Face your adversity and you’ll know it.

I know you can do it!
Lisa, The Adversity Doctor

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Beyond Your Niche and Target Market… Branding and the Power of Being You!

September 9th, 2009

Have you ever been at a networking event, barely meet someone and then automatically get added to their newsletter or worse yet, have them start forwarding tons of emails to you? That’s part of their brand. What? Yep, your brand is who you be in the world.

One of my specialties is breaking things down, making them really simple… taking words like; niche, target market, and branding and reducing them down to what they really are. On the human level, what is your brand? A big part of it is who and how you’re being in the world, and how you treat people. Now let’s expand that into business, mixing humanity and business because without humans, there’s no business. Right.

In business is not just what we say but how we say it and how we do it. I did a ton of networking last week and consequently ended up added to a few newsletters… eight so far, that I wasn’t asked if I wanted to sign-up for.

What does that possibly tell me on a human to human level about that person and their business?
– Are they respectful of me – my choices, my time?
– Who’s agenda is the most important to them?
And, even without consciously being aware of it, might this attract a different type of person to their business?

Now, what if they’d sent me a quick email, said something personal, “I really enjoyed meeting you at the event the other day…I liked what you said about…”, told me the value and benefit of their newsletter, maybe sent me an example, and invited me to join? What would that show me?
– That they’re nice, respectful…someone I might like to do business with.
– That they want to help me… if it’s right for me.
- That they believe in their newsletter/product.

See the difference. Seth Godin wrote a book on this called “Permission Marketing”. (And.. by the way, if you want my newsletter, you will have to sign up. I won’t just add you… and it’s a great newsletter. If you’d like some inspiration and a little poke or prod to go for your dream and play big, sign up. Oh… and soon my e-workbook will be out too. It’s daily practices to help you stay focused and on track and performing optimally, giving you a greater chance for success.

Here’s another example:

When I was in coaching school, I did my first “30 second introduction”. I’d never done one before and I was so nervous. I started off and the first words outs of my mouth were not what I’d spent the whole evening before practicing. What did I do? Did I make a scene or get really frustrated? Did I get embarrassed and lose my way? What I did… I stepped to the side, stepped back in place, and started over.

What does that tell you about what it would be like working with me?
– I don’t get stuck on mistakes. We notice them and try again.
– I’m okay being human and give myself, and probably my clients, the opportunity to practice and grow.
– I’m respectful of my self and my perfectly imperfect humanity.

To give credit where credit is do. It was one of my instructors, Kathy Mallory, that pointed this out. She noted that how I handled that situation would show prospective clients as much as what I’d said about what it would be like to work with me. It’s obviously stuck in my mind, it’s also simple and true. And it’s something we might not be consciously aware of but when looking for a service provide, our gut notices those things.

We tell people what we’re like to work with not just by our business, our bio, we also do it by the choices we make one human to another.

John Maxwell was once asked to write a book on business ethics. His response, “There’s no such thing as business ethics – there’s only ethics.” And he goes on to talk about business based on the Golden Rule – do unto others. I think it’s so important to remember this in all we do in business.

Who do you want to be through your business? What’s your brand/statement to the world?

Here’s an interesting dilemma I have… Twitter. In some ways it sounds great for me to tweet, maybe send out little motivational messages now and then. I’m good at it, and it might be good for my clients. And… as a coach and the person that I am (who I am and want to be through my business and what impact I want to have on you) it doesn’t feel right to add another distraction to your life. I feel that it’s important for us all to have time to be present, to not be inundated with information, to be in touch with ourselves. I often turn my phone and computer off. So…right now my gut says no, and it’s fun to roll the idea and the implication around in my head. Will it hurt my business not to have it… or will not having it and expressing my values in that way be one more attraction to the type of clients I want to work with?

So, what about you, your brand, your business… who you want to be?

By expressing you, who you are and your values through your business you can become more successful and attract those clients you really want to work with. You also create a more sustainable business because you feel good about your interactions, they fit with who you are. You’re brand will also be bolder because you’re expressing it in many different ways – through you messages (what you say and how you say it), your choices and also your products and services.

You’re also sending your self a powerful message by valuing you, your way, and what’s right for you. That’s incredibly powerful for you personally and for the success of your business.

It’s not always easy to see how we’re putting ourselves, our message, our brand out there in our businesses. Sometimes it helps to have someone from the outside listening and sharing what they see. If you’d like some help in being your brand and attracting clients and customers that are people you love working with, my coaching can help you.

When your brand is true to you and how you want to be in the world, and your target market, niche and brand are clear, defined, and bold you will naturally and more easily attract the quality clients you want… the type of clients that will inspire you to be the best you can be because you love serving them and helping them be more successful (I know or I wouldn’t have spent my afternoon writing this blog). How much would that impact your business and your future. Oh… I’m in Seattle but I coach over the phone and have clients internationally. If I can help you be more successful, I’d love to do so. Go to www.adversitydoctor.com and sign up for a Free Strategy Session.

“Be yourself! There is something that you can do better than any other. Listen to the inward voice and bravely obey that.” (Unknown)

To Our Success!
Lisa, The Adversity Doctor
Your guide to helping you go beyond adversity and Have the Adventure of a Life!
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Ease… getting into the rhythm and having your business flow.

August 19th, 2009

I live at the beach and have started walking every morning in the sun… I do a walking meditation of sorts before I start my work day. This morning while I was walking it was windy and I watched the seaguls finding these sweet spots in the wind and just float. They’d travel way down the beach without moving their wings just using the current of the air to carry them.

It reminded me that sometimes in my life and business I can get into that flow… where everythings seems to work and come easy. Not that I don’t work, the work just seems to naturally flow. I’m really bold and go for it, like that bird riding the current. I’m working in a place of belief in the positive… faith that things will work out and that I can handle that next thing in front of me so I just go for it. Like Stephen Covey’s “start with the end in mind” or Anthony Robbins calls it “your magnificient obsession” or it can be Spiritual Faith. Just that vision forward that tells you it can, will and is working. Having that belief that is so strong it eases your way. It’s thrilling, bold… and at the same time an easy rhythm.

It’s like stepping into the current of a river and swimming with it. Everything you do becomes quickened. It’s when we let everything work together for our good versus trying to make it happen. I watch my clients get into that flow and am amazed by what happens in their lives and businesses when they do. Everything just seems to work and amazing things happen.

What works to get into that flow? The biggest thing is having that vision of what you want, knowing that you have everything within you to make it happen (or will when the time comes), and trusting that. Simple…and not easy… but we’re talking ease here, right.

So, what gets us stuck is getting caught in past thoughts of how things didn’t work, then we get scared and resistant, thinking things won’t work the next time either, thinking we don’t get to have what we really want or we’re not good enough to get it. Unless we change our minds, that becomes a self fulfilling prophesy because we hold back. Back to the seagul… we don’t fly up, find that sweet spot, trust the current and that we will be supported.

So, it’s simple and it takes the work and discipline of thinking and holding those positive thoughts and doing what’s best for you and what works for you… again, simple and it seems like it should be easy yet we all have our “stuff” so it’s a practice.

What tools help you get into that positive belief so that you’re in the flow?

For me there are two pieces – first its getting my mind in a positive spot. Some of the things that work for me are:
– Reading a really inspiring book (one is Jack Canfield’s “The Success Principles” read page 40),
– Thinking about good moments in my life (it’s so easy to think about the bad and what didn’t work or what wasn’t good. This is a conscious choice to think about kindness and fun and success and love and friendship… those moments that make you feel good.)
– Doing something kind.
– Making a list of things I’m grateful for.
– Of course there is prayer, meditation, or listening to good music.

Then, when my mind is positive and focused on good. When I’m believing I can and that people in the world are good so will receive me well, I create my vision. What do I really want? And what’s the next thing to do? When I think of those two things, in that current state, I get excited and want to move foward. I want everything to work. Versus, when I’m thinking I can’t, feeling insecure or thinking about the bad that could happen sometimes I hold back because I’m afraid of what might happen. Does that sound familiar?

Now it’s your turn. Get into that space, that positive belief, set your intention, your vision and go for the life you desire.

Check out my article for more tips Is It the Recession or Are You Limiting Your Possibiliites?

And… as always, if you’d like coaching support in going for your dreams, living big and boldly and making your difference in the world… sign up for a Free Personal Strategy with me, Lisa, the Adversity Doctor. Go to www.AdversityDoctor.com

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Are You Thinking Like a Winner?

April 27th, 2009

When we think about ourselves or our businesses we can either think about what we want to create and how we’ll do that – valuing what is and adding value to that. Or, think about what we don’t have and what’s wrong.

In the back, or front, of many people’s minds are, “not good enough” thoughts. Whether those thoughts are about their business, their product, or themselves… and of course, that’s on a relative level – you might be making $1 million a year and not be feeling good enough to make or do more. It’s hard to sell your product or service or yourself if you’re feeling and believing that some part of it or you is not good enough to go to that next level.

Have you heard of the story of Bunker Bean? It was a novel written about 100 years ago. The story tells about a man who has low self-esteem and doesn’t do well in life. Then Bunker made a new friend, a medium, whom he believed in. This friend told him that the down part of his life would soon be over, and that he had been Napoleon in a past life. Well, Bunker Bean feeling so powerful and good about himself went from there, with new beliefs about himself, made new choices and bigger actions and became much more successful. Everything in his life changed for the better… he studied Napoleon and imitated him… he also realized that he himself possessed some of those good qualities that Napoleon had possessed.

Bunker went from feeling not good enough, to feeling possibility. He went from thinking about what he didn’t possess within himself, to thinking about what he did. He went from thinking about what he hadn’t done, to thinking what he could do, and finding out how to do it. That’s thinking like a winner.

Today, are you thinking about what you don’t have, what you’ve never done and deciding you can’t or aren’t good enough? Or are you thinking about:

– What you want to do?
– What you need to learn and grow to get there?
– The good, skills, talent and experience you already possess?
– Who could help you – whether in person or reading a book about someone?
– What steps can you take today to move your forward?

It took Bunker Bean having someone tell him that he’d been someone powerful and important in his past. So, what do you need to believe about yourself and what you’re capable of? What if I told you that you, a member of the human race, are related to the most powerful people that are or ever have been, and that you are capable of that greatness too? What if you knew, you have within and available to you what the most successful people in the world have.

If you took the time to read this, it shows you want to move forward and you’re already taking the steps it takes…Fabulous! So, what’s your next step? Go for it!

If you’re next step is to get help and you’re ready to rise up to the next level of success in your life, to have that experience that Bunker Bean had of knowing how great you are and doing even more with your life than you already are, check out my workshops or sign up for a Free Personal Strategy Session with me and find out how coaching with me will help you. My coaching is over the phone, so no matter where you are in the world, if you’re ready to go for that next level of success, I can help you!

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You Get Your Story… or The Life You Want.

April 2nd, 2009

If you don’t have the life and success that you want, you probably have a story that you tell yourself about why you don’t have it. Maybe it’s about someone in your life and how they are keeping you from what you want. Maybe it’s about your past, your parents or something that happened to you.

First, I’m sorry that something challenging happened to you.

Second, how much of your life, how many opportunities, how much love, how much success are you going to not experience because you are believing your story, carrying it around, using it as your reason to stay stuck and not making a different choice for yourself.

You can have whatever life you want…and…the first thing you need to do is give up your story…blame, excuse, the reason you tell yourself you don’t have what you want. Then realize the story happened in the past and it’s over, whether it was 20 years ago or 5 minutes. Your future, starting this moment can be whatever you want it to be. If it’s not great, it’s because you are not doing what it takes to have the life that you want.

Sound harsh? What’s better… you believing the lie that your past tells you and you not having the life or experiences that you want for months or years…maybe the rest of your life. Or you getting uncomfortable for a bit, realizing that you are the reason your life isn’t what you want it to be… and you having the opportunity to change it.

You are the power in your world. You’re past is over and done. What will you make of today? Stop living the lie… and live your truth and your life.

You are good enough, you are special and beautiful and unique and capable. You can have the life that you want… What is that next level of better for you? What will you do today to move toward it?

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